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Holidays are tough for many people, myself including. My family lives overseas and celebrates their own holidays the Russian way and visiting usually during spring and summer months.Most of my friends are American and have families, so they gather with them. But for me, it’s just A and I and his family in Maine. Usually we visit them but this year we had them come here, to NJ. One thing we do have is space!
Even when we spend it in Maine, I still find time for myself. It is so easy to get caught in the craze of the holiday season and completely forget about your needs by being wrapped up in needs of others…
Christmas time is a time for me to reflect. I tend not to fall into a consumer Christmas insanity but try to pass my time in a way that brings me joy. Some activities include writing in my diary, taking long baths, making hair and face masks, and doing my nails. Also, I found that blogging, reading Dickens Ghost stories and other books that have been put on a back burner, calling or texting friends, and just reflecting in general- has proved to be valuable in beating the loneliness blues.. I reflect on the past year, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and weigh in on lessons I have learned and mountains I’ve conquered. I make mind maps. I get rid of things. I donate and re-gift books that made a difference in my life. I make wishes on Christmas Eve.
What about you? How do you make Christmas YOUR holiday without being stretched too thin?
What a fun long weekend this is ended up being. An and I started celebrating on a Wednesday night when we went out for sushi in the middle of a snow storm. There is something very romantic and special about going out to eat in the snow storm. The restaurant was cozy and food-delicious. I just HAD to wear my hat:
After we came back, we watched a movie and I hunkered down in bed with the Alchemist and he continued watching in the den. On Thursday we cleaned the whole house together and it looked awesome. Around 2PM the turkey was ready and we had our Thanksgiving Feast. After that, I read for a bit and A was doing his projects on the computer. I also admit that I took a tiny, tiny nap- all that stuff in the turkey has made me tired.
Today we went out shopping-just out of curiosity to see what people are up to and possibly see the insanity of Black Friday. Well, there was NO insanity! Walmart- no one. Target- very few people. AC Moore- zilch. Huh, I thought, perhaps everyone is shopping online these days?
After we came back, we finally finished my do-it-yourself project – A French Bulletin Board! Here it is, ready and hung: What do I have on there, you ask? Ah, well… A bunch of different things. Things that remind me how loved I am, things from friends, family, co-workers. Images of distant place; inspiring, meaningful accomplishments, and relevant quotes that keep me going… Tickets from Yo-Yo Ma concert, scraps of paper with things that I wrote because they resonated with me.
Today I have finished the Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. What am amazing, amazing book. One quote has particularly stayed with me: “Before your dream is realized, the Soul of the World has to test everything you have learned on the way thus making that point the most difficult. That is the point when most people give up.” I am totally feeling it now regarding my doctoral program. Next week is when all of my papers are due, plus a final exam. I cannot help but feel helpless yet I know at am at a point when the Universe is testing me- and right after there will be light. And rest. And relief. And victory. How does it go? “The darkest hour of the night is an hour right before the sunrise.” And I ned to keep this in mind. Especially now.